Welcome to part 2 of Knowing What to Look for in a Godly Man (adapted from an unknown source by my junior high self)!! It would probably be really beneficial to stop by part 1 first before continuing with part 2 and you can find that here. The second part of this post focuses on kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
Kindness: if a man follows God’s example, he will be kind to ungrateful people and he will be merciful and loving
“But love your enemies, and do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything in back.” Luke 6:35a
Does he treat people more kindly than they deserve?
Goodness: this is when he has the tendency to make decisions that are in line with God’s commandments
Look for the man that is devoted to doing good, that wants to teach and be the example of what is good, and that engages in actions that are good.
Does he take time to pray before he makes a decision?
Does he ignore what God says if it’s not what he wants to hear?
Does he do good things for others when he has the opportunity?
Faithfulness: remaining true to the commitments he makes
A Godly man will consistently be faithful to his wife and to God. He will support you during tough times. He would never do anything in secret or behind your back.
Would you want your children to act like he does?
Would you be able to trust his reliability during hard times?
Gentleness: he should be free from bitterness or harsh words
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” Colossians 3:19
Do not marry a man who treats other people in a way you would not want to be treated, because eventually it will be you.
Self-Control: he does not give into lust or any other worldly desire that would go against God’s words
Proverbs 29:11- self- control with temper
Proverbs 18:13- listening before speaking
Proverbs 23:4- self-control with money
Proverbs 6:23-24- self- control with women
Do not make excuses for a guy that pressures you into doing anything that you do not want to do. Self-control is a characteristic that doesn’t come easy, and it should be something that an honest Christian strives to be better at.
Does his lifestyle reflect God’s word?
Is his speech pure?
Is he envious?
Can he admit his wrongdoing?
Does he love you for who you are, not for what you can do for him?
I realize that this list sets incredibly high standards. I also realize that you will not find a guy on this Earth that is going to fit all this criteria perfectly, but you should find a guy that strives for it
I’m incredibly blessed to have someone that chases after God alongside me, and I’ll forever be thankful that God has given me someone as compassionate and strong as Ridge is. It wasn’t until our relationship that I realized how important it is to me to have someone with a strong commitment to doing the right thing and standing up for what they believe in. Ridge isn’t perfect, but he has a desire to grow and to learn more and to be better and I see the desire for God inside him. No one you are going to meet will be perfect. Everyone is going to have their flaws, but the important thing to see in a man is recognition that he is not perfect, and his never-ending desire for Christ and His perfection.
So, yeah this list has really high standards. You know what though? You are the daughter of the King of the universe- your standards should be high. Do not settle for anyone who is complacent. Do not settle for anyone who doesn’t strive to better constantly. Do not settle for anyone who doesn’t put following Christ their very first priority. He should love God more than he loves you, and his relationship with God should be more important than his relationship with you.
One of the most important decisions you’ll make in life is the person you are going to marry, and you should never let yourself settle for anyone who doesn’t run relentlessly after God and has a burning desire for His righteousness.